A powerful new book about life, death, relationships, mental health and how to talk about what matters - from the Sunday Times bestselling author of 'With the End in Mind'
Kathryn Mannix has spent her medical career working with people who have incurable, advanced illnesses. Starting in cancer care and changing career to become a pioneer of the new discipline of palliative medicine, she has worked in teams in hospices, hospitals and in patients' own homes to deliver palliative care, optimising quality of life even as death is approaching. Having qualified as a Cognitive Behaviour Therapist in 1993, she started the UK's (possibly the world's) first CBT clinic exclusively for palliative care patients, and devised 'CBT First Aid' training to enable palliative care colleagues to add new skills to their repertoire for helping patients. Kathryn has worked with many thousands of dying people, and has found their ability to deal with illness and death both fascinating and inspirational. She believes that a better public awareness about what happens as we die would reduce fear and enable people to discuss their hopes and plans with the people who matter to them.
'This gentle-hearted, engaging and intimately readable book is
so full of wisdom and compassion. Everyone should read it'
'Kathryn Mannix has a gift for cutting through the noise and
helping us realise what is most important. In a world that never
stops talking, this book celebrates and demonstrates the curative
power of listening. It is powerful, humane and wise'
'This is a beautiful book ... Too often people want their
friends and relations to take all the difficult talk to a
therapist, there has to be more than the professional listeners who
know how to have a mutually impactful beautiful, tender
conversation. This is a book for everyone ... I actually feel
listened to by reading it'
'Kathryn Mannix is our modern-day prophet ... This is an
essential book for anyone interested in themselves and their fellow
'I adore Kathryn's writing. Always sensitive, always thoughtful,
an essential read for those looking to connect'
'Kathryn Mannix is a natural born storyteller, and there is so
much wisdom, tenderness and love packed into this profoundly
beautiful book ... Her words brim with grace. I loved this book so
'The book's greatest strength is not just the information it
shares, but the pure humanity it shows; the halting, fearful,
imperfect conversations between people who are all doing their best
and sometimes not getting it right. The gems of wisdom apply to all
situations, whether someone is at the end of their life or has had
a bad day at work ... Compassionate, warm and wise'
'Like having a long and rewarding conversation with a really
good friend ... Perhaps the most important component in all of the
chapters, however, is the telling of stories ... As with Mannix's
first book, there are many moving tales within these pages ...
Wise, gentle and profound'
Joanna Cannon, The Guardian, Book of the Day