Florence Falk has been a psychotherapist in private practice for the past twenty years. She has given lectures and workshops throughout the country.
Many women fear being alone. Society not only often marginalizes women who are unattached, divorced, or unmarried, but women are also subtlety socialized to compare and define themselves in relation to others. Psychotherapist Falk discusses different types of aloneness and the role aloneness plays in women's psychological development from childhood to old age. Using examples from literature, popular culture, and her own practice, she shows how time alone can be positive and provides creative space for learning about oneself and for clarifying needs, desires, and goals. More a reflective psychological study than a guide for making changes, this book may test the patience of the self-help crowd. It's often wordy and lost the interest of this reviewer. Recommended for women's studies and self-help collections where needed.-Lucille Boone, San Jose P.L., CA Copyright 2007 Reed Business Information.
After two divorces and more than two decades as a psychoanalyst, Falk is an expert on the concept of being a woman alone-a term she prefers because "as a distinct category within women's culture, it formally elevates our presence and status, helps us to achieve visibility and expression, and allows us to redress our marginalized state." Hyperbole aside, there's no denying that to embrace being a woman alone isn't easy in a society where "bachelors are always eligible," while " 'spinsters,' almost by definition, are ready for the dumpster." But as Falk makes clear in this useful and appealing manual, it's inaccurate, unfair and unhealthy to equate being alone with being unwanted or a failure. Some may cringe at her flowery language, but she offers plenty of evidence for her central thesis that "aloneness is an opportunity, a state brimming with potentiality, with resources for renewed life." Drawing from her own experiences, those of her patients, and examples from such writers as Marion Milner and cultural figures like Kitty Carlisle Hart, Falk offers plenty of material to help even women with partners to understand the distinction between being abandoned and choosing to be alone, and to appreciate the healing and nurturing benefits of solitude. (Mar.) Copyright 2007 Reed Business Information.
"Florence Falk's On My Own is a provocative, smart read for
any woman who is alone, wants to be alone, or is figuring out how
to be alone. An empowering, emotionally honest book that is long
--Amy Sohn, author of Run Catch Kiss and My Old Man
"In On My Own Florence Falk bravely and soulfully invites
women to reimagine aloneness--to see it as a gift rather than a
failure. Her book is a call to wholeness, independence, and
--Eve Ensler, author of The Vagina Monologues "Finally, an insightful and powerful book that guides us towards inner freedom that is possible when we befriend aloneness. This is for all women, single or not: The stories and practical guidance offered in this book teach us about living and loving fully."
--Tara Brach, Buddhist teacher and author of
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha