Table of Contents

Wiley PracticePlanners® Series Preface xiii

Acknowledgments xv

Introduction xvii

Section I—Abusive Parenting 1

Exercise I.A Our Family’s Secret Story 5

Exercise I.B Measuring Our Feelings 14

Section II—Attention-Deficit /Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) 19

Exercise II.A ADHD Accommodations Request Form 23

Exercise II.B Family Problem Resolution Worksheet 29

Section III—Attention-Seeking Behavior 33

Exercise III.A Family Job Support Checklist 37

Exercise III.B My Love and Trust Support Network 42

Section IV—Blended Family 45

Exercise IV.A Healing Hurt Feelings 49

Exercise IV.B Unique Roles in Our Blended Family 53

Section V—Bonding/Attachment Issues 57

Exercise V.A Steps to Responsible Behavior 60

Exercise V.B The Behavior Progress Chart 64

Section VI—Career Preparation 69

Exercise VI.A Career Family Tree 72

Exercise VI.B School-to-Career Diary 78

Section VII—Character Development 83

Exercise VII.A Division of Family Labor 86

Exercise VII.B Sharing the Family Resources 90

Section VIII—Children with Physical Challenges 95

Exercise VIII.A Strategies for Supporting Our Child with Physical Challenges 100

Exercise VIII.B Working Together to Create a Plan 102

Section IX—Conduct Disorder/Delinquent Behavior 105

Exercise IX.A Replacing Noncompliance with Compliance and Cooperation 109

Exercise IX.B Using Privileges as Contingencies and Consequences 114

Section X—Dependent Children/Overprotective Parent 117

Exercise X.A Overprotective Parent versus Positive Parent 120

Exercise X.B Creating and Cooperating with Family Rules 124

Section XI—Depression 127

Exercise XI.A Creating Positive Self-Talk 130

Exercise XI.B Managing Positive and Negative Relationships 134

Section XII—Divorce/Separation 139

Exercise XII.A Divorce is Not My Fault 142

Exercise XII.B Assuming Our Parental Responsibilities 145

Section XIII—Eating Disorder 149

Exercise XIII.A Beautiful on the Inside 152

Exercise XIII.B Modeling Healthy Attitudes about Nutrition, Exercise, and Body Image 156

Section XIV—Gifted/Talented 159

Exercise XIV.A Teaching Responsibility 162

Exercise XIV.B Procedures for Meals, Bedtime, and the Morning Routine 165

Section XV—Grandparenting Strategies 169

Exercise XV.A Parents’ Rules versus Grandparents’ Rules 172

Exercise XV.B Personal Boundaries for Interaction with the Grandchildren 176

Section XVI—Grief/Loss 181

Exercise XVI.A Monitoring Our Reactions to Change and Loss 184

Exercise XVI.B Grief and Loss Circle of Support 188

Section XVII—Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) 191

Exercise XVII.A Planning for Disruptive Behavior 194

Exercise XVII.B Family-Approved Media List 198

Section XVIII—Peer Relationships/Influences 201

Exercise XVIII.A Social Influences in My Child’s Life 204

Exercise XVIII.B Peer Pressures, Values, and Influences 207

Section XIX—Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 213

Exercise XIX.A Reframing Our Worries 216

Exercise XIX.B Physical Receptors of Stress 220

Section XX—Poverty-Related Issues 223

Exercise XX.A Achieving Family Goals 227

Exercise XX.B Different Rules for Home and School 231

Section XXI—Prenatal Parenting Preparation 235

Exercise XXI.A Creating a Family-Friendly Lifestyle 238

Exercise XXI.B Bonding with Our Prenatal Baby 242

Section XXII—School Adjustment Difficulties 245

Exercise XXII.A Organizing for the School Day 248

Exercise XXII.B My Ideal School Day 252

Section XXIII—Sexual Responsibility 255

Exercise XXIII.A Sexual Responsibility and Healthy Self-esteem 258

Exercise XXIII.B My Personal Sexual Responsibility Code 262

Section XXIV—Sibling Rivalry 265

Exercise XXIV.A Affirming Each Child’s Uniqueness 268

Section XXV—Single Parenting 273

Exercise XXV.A Stress Reduction Strategies 276

Section XXVI—Spousal Role and Relationship Conflict 279

Exercise XXVI.A State of Our Marriage Report 282

Exercise XXVI.B Our Evolving Marriage and Spousal Roles 287

Section XXVII—Strategies for Preschoolers (Ages Birth to 6) 295

Exercise XXVII.A Charting Our Child’s Developmental Stages 298

Exercise XXVII.B Helping My Child Develop Responsible Behavior 305

Section XXVIII—Strategies for Children (Ages 7 to 12) 311

Exercise XXVIII.A The Rewind Game 315

Exercise XXVIII.B Record of Reinforced Behavior 319

Exercise XXVIII.C Problem-solving Worksheet 323

Section XXIX—Strategies for Teenagers (Ages 13 to 18) 327

Exercise XXIX.A Listening with Empathy 330

Exercise XXIX.B Earning Privileges and Freedoms 335

Section XXX—Substance Abuse 339

Exercise XXX.A Healthy Habits to Support Recovery 343

Exercise XXX.B Our Commitment to a Substance-Free Lifestyle 348

Section XXXI—Suicide Prevention 351

Exercise XXXI.A Heart-to-Heart Smart Talks 354

Appendix: Alternate Assignments for Presenting Problems 357

About the Downloadable Assignments 371

About the Author

ARTHUR E. JONGSMA, Jr., PhD, is the Series Editor for the bestselling Practice Planners Since 1971, he has provided professional mental health services to both inpatient and outpatient clients. He was the founder and Director of Psychological Consultants, a group private practice in Grand Rapids, Michigan, for 25 years. He is the author or co-author of over forty books and conducts training workshops for mental health professionals around the world.

SARAH EDISON KNAPP, MSW, CSW, is a former school social worker who now devotes her time and expertise to helping educators and parents relate to children in positive and highly effective ways. She is the author of several books including The School Counseling and School Social Work Treatment Planner, Second Edition published by Wiley.