Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with BPD to an international forefront through her www.bpdcentral.com , and the Welcome to Oz online support community. Through Eggshells Press, she offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials. She was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.
"Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder
is a much-needed book for loved ones of someone with BPD, as
well as for psychotherapists. I've had many clients throughout my
forty years as a therapist who are at their wit's end when it comes
to knowing how to communicate with a BPD loved one without the
conversation escalating into an argument. Kreisman presents
effective strategies to help readers learn how to communicate in
the best way possible to ensure that they are heard, and their
loved one doesn't feel humiliated or blamed. I will recommend this
book to many of my clients and colleagues."
--Beverly Engel, LMFT, author of It Wasn't Your Fault--Beverly Engel, LMFT
"Borderline personality disorder (BPD), which can be difficult for clinicians to manage, can also be painful for families and loved ones. They need help to avoid conflict and to respond in helpful ways. This book, written in highly accessible language, provides many practical tips on communicating about intense emotions and understanding troubled people."
--Joel Paris, MD, professor in the department of psychiatry at McGill University, and author of Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder--Joel Paris, MD
"For anyone who loves, lives with, or must care for a person struggling with BPD, Jerold Kreisman has written another useful guide full of empathic and pragmatic techniques. All too often, interactions with these individuals prove to be confusing, painful, and sometimes infuriating; Kreisman outlines a detailed approach for coping and keeping your head. As a clinician who has worked with individuals who suffer from this disorder, as well as the people who know them, I found his guidance to harmonize with my own experience and to echo the advice I often give to my own clients."
--Joseph Burgo, PhD, psychotherapist, PsychologyToday blogger, and author of The Narcissist You Know, Why Do I Do That?, and the forthcoming Shame--Joseph Burgo, PhD
"If somebody you care about struggles with BPD, this book will change your relationship with them forever! In this well-crafted guide, Jerold Kreisman masterfully describes the unique communication challenges this disorder produces and offers practical, step-by-step examples of how to deal with them effectively. You will think someone has been eavesdropping on your conversations! If your desire is to better connect with a loved one in your life with BPD and save yourself future emotional exhaustion in the process, it is unlikely that you will find a better resource."
--Jeff Riggenbach, PhD, president at the CBT Institute of Oklahoma, and author of Borderline Personality Disorder Toolbox--Jeff Riggenbach, PhD
"The lessons in respectful listening and mindful speech offered by this book will serve a broad audience. Ultimately, everyone struggles--to some degree or another--to understand and be understood. My commitment to feminist critiques of psychiatric categories leads me to be cautious around diagnostic terminology that labels one person in a conflict as disordered, but with that caveat in mind, I think of this book as an instruction in the 'humble warrior' pose of difficult conversations, as it advocates strength, balance, and grace in communicating with clients and loved ones who experience heightened interpersonal sensitivities. I can't think of qualities more necessary in the current moment than those modeled here by Kreisman: support, empathy, truth, understanding, and perseverance."
--Merri Lisa Johnson, professor of women's and gender studies at USC Upstate, and author of Girl in Need of a Tourniquet--Merri Lisa Johnson
"Those who struggle to keep the peace with difficult people in their daily lives will find these explanations and strategies extremely informative and helpful. You can be effective, and Jerold Kreisman will show you how!"
--Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?--Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW